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Sexploration with Monika – Tantra & Pleasure: the Danger Path?

billschiffler — Mon, 20 May 2013 20:40:24 +0000

Why is Tantra, the “pleasure path” to spirituality, also seen as dangerous? I’m wandering in, around, and above Union Square with Francesca Gentille, founder of the Sacred Courtesan School, the Knights of Eros, and the Temple of Shadows. We’ll explore a number of ideas in, around and on top of consciousness and sexuality. Learn about “Intuitive Safe Sex,” whether or not it’s actually safe, and how to communicate about STI’s and manage your risk. Do you talk to your vulva? You could be able to experience a new level of orgasm by loving & being IN your body. Plus, can the tools and techniques of BDSM & kinky sex be used for sacred sexuality and spiritual connection? In relationships, how can you break the cycle of neediness and fear and come to a place of choice? Does playing “hard to get” work or is it dangerous because it communicates that we’re not able to be honest in a yes? How do you deal with mixed messages, while being open, authentic, and creating allure with power & clarity? If your body is a temple, how do you adorn it? Plus, what sexy outfits mean and the connection between sex and spiritual power. What is the mysterious and yet so prevalent connection between shoes, feet, & sex? What happens when we suppress sexual expression and desire?

Sexploration with Monika – Aphrodisiacs and Ingredients for Arousal

billschiffler — Wed, 17 Apr 2013 04:23:24 +0000

Have you ever wanted to try a real aphrodisiac? Chances are you have – and I don’t mean that you’ve been dosed – because that’s not sexy. There are tons of natural aphrodisiacs, and they could have been masquerading as a tossed salad – not THAT kind of tossed salad, though that could be an arousal amplifier too. Natural aphrodisiacs are just another way that God shows us that nature is pro-sex and when used with intention, you could be in for a lot of fun. Nutritionist Jared of HottChocolates.com will tell us which herbal aphrodisiacs he uses in his truffles. Speaking of a lot of fun, the “My Blissed Out Valentine” haiku for the aquatic & couple’s massage from ThaiCouplesMassage.com are here too. It’s all for science: awareness, oxytocin, arousal, and exploration on this episode of Sexploration with Monika.

Sexploration with Monika – Whore! beauty, power, and subverting dominant culture

billschiffler — Wed, 10 Apr 2013 04:01:09 +0000

Why should you celebrate female sexual power (even if you are not female)? What do YOU get out of sex-worker activism? Sexploration with Monika is on location at Whore Speaks! celebrating the 2nd issue of Whore! Magazine produced by Ginger Murray with performances celebrating creativity and female power and sexuality. We interview Dottie Lux of Red Hots Burlesque about beauty and subverting the dominant culture paradigm, and why she is wrapping her curves in packing tape. She’ll tell you how she gets people’s attention to get them to think about something important. Why is Red Hots Burlesque so intellectual? Because the sexiest part of your body is your brain. Ginger, of Whore! Magazine, tells us why she has a penis glued to her girdle and we talk about gender, celebrating not fitting in, and authenticity. Learn why Ginger called her magazine “Whore!” and how she promotes sexual power for all genders, smashing the barrier between sexy and smart.

Sexploration with Monika – Burlesque Self-Esteem Scholarships (All Kinds of Sexy II)

billschiffler — Wed, 03 Apr 2013 04:00:19 +0000

You can join me on-location now at the glittering “All Kinds of Sexy” burlesque scholarship benefit for victims of rape, domestic violence, and eating disorders from Bombshell Betty. Have you ever been to a dance show where all the dancers looked exactly the same? This isn’t that show. There’s all kinds of different going on tonight, not just body type, but also I’ve never seen this Sesame Street character strip before! So many surprises. Also, could learning sultry dance moves (and how to take off your clothes in a sexy way) be part of a process of empowerment and connection with the body and sexual power? Can learning to dance the strip tease be healing? What’s it like learning to bare it all (to a group of supportive women) not just physically but “baring it all” in other ways too? We’ll talk to scholarship beneficiary Candy Pie, and enjoy burlesque-style teases and sparkle from dance instructor Bombshell Betty, Valhalla Voom, Pound Cake Delight, Rosey Bootticelli, and mmmore at the Elbow Room’s “All Kinds of Sexy.”

Sexploration with Monika – Add sizzle back into your relationship, and then really turn it up!

billschiffler — Wed, 27 Mar 2013 04:01:10 +0000

You’re in a relationship: at first you are having MIND-BLOWING SEX all the time, but after a while you’re having “efficient sex” & then eventually, maybe no sex at all! Why does that always happen in long-term relationships? Do you want have long-lasting love plus all the sizzling sex? Tim & Susan Bratton have been there, together for almost 20 years… after about 5 years they were like friends – co-habitating, raising their daughter – but they’d lost the sexual intimacy. He wanted to leave her because he was essentially in a sexless marriage. She wanted him to leave him because he was checked out of the relationship. Tim and Susan knew they couldn’t do any better than each other as far as spouses. All they could do was divorce and trade each other in for a “fresh model.” But they wanted their cake (love) and getting it all over their faces too so they worked really hard to figure out how to get their sexy back… with sizzle to spare! Since this was such a common issue for couples, Susan created “Revive Her Drive” to share her secrets with husbands everywhere. Special “carried away” bonus for smart phone listeners from “Hot sex: Over 200 things you can try tonight.” Then, “Dr” Diego of Love Toy Rentals rev’s it up past 11 with pleasure technology that women are saying is a bigger thrill than the Hitachi magic wand. Professional dominatrix and sex educator Eve Minax said that her orgasm was so strong that not only did her little dog start howling with her but her head nearly exploded, no really. With Token Straight Guy comedian Paul Brumbaugh from FCC Free Radio’s “The Edge of Insanity!” What does the sybian really feel like? Inquiring minds…

Sexploration with Monika – Lesbian Love Story from 1890

billschiffler — Wed, 20 Mar 2013 04:01:39 +0000

What would it have been like for a lady to fall in love with another woman in 1890? Meet Miss Flora Devine, an African-American lady who owns an inn in a small Southern black township in 1890. She does not realize she could be same-sex attracted until she falls in love with Biddy Higgins, an itinerant butcher. We’ll speak with actresses Dawn L. Troupe & Velina Brown, Director John Fisher, and playwright Shirlene Holmes. “A Lady and a Woman” is a production of Theater Rhinoceros, the oldest LGBTQ theatre company in the world, started in 1977 in San Francisco. This show runs thru March 24th, 2013 at the Eureka Theater. A long time before it was “ok” to be a lesbian or queer, “A Lady and a Woman” explores the interlocking themes of spirituality and sexuality telling the story of two women who find in each other the courage to begin a new life. We’ll also discuss other works by Shirlene Holmes “Daughters” about identity and trans-cultural adoption, and “Strong Arms” about a shelter for battered men, exploring themes of masculinity, power, and ending abuse & domestic violence.

Sexploration with Monika – Interview with a (man who wants to be a real) Fox!

billschiffler — Wed, 13 Mar 2013 04:01:29 +0000

You probably know someone who dresses up as a kitty for Halloween, or maybe you’ve worn ears and a tail once or twice… Can you imagine wanting to be an animal for real? Meet Smash, dressed head-to-toe in a red latex fox suit at the supperclub bondage dinner. Smash even has rubber paws, and yips when you say hello. All he wants in the world is to be a collared pet, and Mistress Elisa, is glad to feed him in a dog bowl, hold his leash, and wait-till-you-hear more. He wants to be an animal FOR REAL, and would even get surgery if he could. This is called “species dysphoria,” and far from being the only person who says they have it, Smash has a whole pack of furry friends. These humanimals even have a special event, a hunt. Imagine giving up human language and thought, so all you have to worry about is eating, sleeping… and sex! Would you want to be (or have) a “living sex toy,” as Elisa calls Smash? Apparently, as she says, foxes are “notoriously slutty.” Let’s explore the inner life of Smash, a human fox, and his loving partner, Mistress Elisa. Themes include an animal environmentalism or ecosexuality, animal head space as a way to access the mental space of meditation (utter presence in the moment), and being wildly shame-free. Elisa and her fox discuss why their play is definitely not bestiality, the different mental “fursonas” Smash indulges in, and the unique perspective one develops on the noisy human world through the eyes, ears, and soul of an animal.

Sexploration with Monika – Masturbate-A-Thon w/ Nina Hartley benefits Center for Sex & Culture

billschiffler — Wed, 06 Mar 2013 05:01:54 +0000

On-Location broadcast from the Masturbate-a-Thon, a charity event where men and women masturbate in public and in private to raise money for the Center For Sex and Culture, a non-profit adult sexuality education center in San Francisco. Besides trying to beat(off) the world record of 9 hours and 33 minutes, there are a number of competitions, including number of orgasms in a given time and “distance.” We discuss self-pleasuring, threesomes, multiple-partner relationships, BDSM, gender-bending, sex-education, and vagina-in-a-can with porn star & sex-educator Nina Hartley, Sexologist Dr.Carol Queen and her partner Robert, founders of the Center for Sex and Culture. Also post-segment quippery with Lilycat of FCC Free Radio, who stage-manages the event. Plus the delightful masturbation sing-along with the Wet Spots. You can join the next Masturbate-a-Thon (privately or publicly) in May or just support sex-positive culture at the Center For Sex and Culture at Mission and 11th Street in San Francisco.

Sexploration with Monika – Pleasure is Good For You (Healthy, Healing, Empowering)

billschiffler — Wed, 27 Feb 2013 05:01:33 +0000

You might want to stop calling it masturbation because the word masturbation literally means “to disturb with the hand.” Devi Ward calls it “the art of self pleasure.” What’s wrong with touching your own pleasure parts? Absolutely nothing, as long as it’s private or consensual, and it’s good for you. In fact, not only does pleasure, especially sexual pleasure, have a number of physiological benefits, but it can heal emotional trauma as well! In her book, “Shake Your Soul-Song!: A Woman’s Guide To Self-Empowerment Through The Art Of Self-Pleasure” Devi Ward describes how taking time for pleasure every day can transform your life. Also, the amount of time you take is important too, this is not about “getting it over with.” She’ll describe the difference between climax and orgasm, and why it’s essential to more pleasure. Also, we’ll talk about the importance of relaxation and the parasympathetic nervous system in health and well-being. (Thanks to Fields of Heather for this photo of Devi.) What about those “guilty pleasures” like ice cream? Is there a way to transform the experience to make it both more pleasurable and not “guilty?” There’s a simple key here, and if you want to guess it starts with an “A.” Learn how pleasure can be a path to healing and empowerment on this episode of Sexploration with Monika.

Sexploration with Monika – The Kinky Salon Memoir and Tango

billschiffler — Wed, 13 Feb 2013 05:01:58 +0000

Polly Superstar, who co-founded Kinky Salon, is writing her memoirs. Over the last 10-years of throwing San Franfreakshow’s most creative sex party she describes her new project KoTango with bestseller “Sex At Dawn” author Christopher Ryan. KoTango is a cross between a social network, sex-positive news platform, and open-relationship dating or meet-up site. Polly and I discuss how if humans were “naturally promiscuous” in prehistoric times, where does that leave us now after 10,000 years of culturally-imposed monogamy? We discuss polyamory, open marriages, and even just admitting that you’re attracted to others in a monogamous relationship and creating a safe container for mutual exploration and expression. Also, she tells us about a tantric awakening that she had while trying to manage the Kinky Salon sex party. Plus, the big Valentine’s Day Kinky Salon is coming up, the Sweetheart’s Ball at their Misson Control headquarters Saturday, February 16th. Mission Control has a unique sex party for every flavor of sexual expression in San Francisco: tantra, all women, polyamorous, queer or gay (mostly) men, pair-bonded couples, swingers, and unicorns (oh my), and a party for all of that at the same time. Imagine.

Sexploration with Monika – The BDSM Tea Party

billschiffler — Wed, 06 Feb 2013 05:01:42 +0000

In the BDSM Tea party, Monika has a cup of tea with a professional dominatrix, a male slave, a male dominant, and his female partner, a submissive and switch. Monika wants to know what it’s like to beat men for a living, what’s good about being flogged, and why on earth you’d seek a relationship where you would be exploited and hurt. How do you stay safe in a relationship that includes on-purpose pain and domination? The BDSM Tea party covers a range of topics in BDSM:
Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism including negotiation and consent. Then, Monika teaches them a trick… mmmmm, what can be done with cup of tea. Adult themes, civilized discussion, a cup of tea, The BDSM Tea Party, the pilot episode of Sexploration with Monika recorded in 2007. Sexploration with Monika is a forum for the open intellectual exploration of sexual ideas. Host Monika Thomas is a certified sexual health educator who also has taught classes about healthy relationships and rape & domestic violence prevention. Monika believes healthy consensual sexuality improves quality of life, and communication improves sexuality. Only you can define what “healthy sexuality” is for yourself, but authenticity and being present in the moment are recurring themes.

Sexploration with Monika – SaferSexC, an Open Relationship, and Restraint as Art

billschiffler — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 05:01:38 +0000

Do you know how to kill the Hepatitis C virus? Hepatitus C is a virus that damages the liver and it is spread by many kinds of kinky play, rough sex, sharing razors or nail clippers. Most people who have Hep C don’t know they are infected because they don’t have symptoms, and HCV tests are not routine. You have to ask your doctor to get tested. Learn how to play safely and avoid getting Hep C from Leather Daddy Boy & HepC/HIV outreach activist Jorge Vieto, of the Stop AIDS Project. We talk about public health & HIV Hepatitis Outreach and why it’s so important that everyone get tested and get educated so you can reduce your risk. Jorge does testing in tattoo shops in the Castro, and he tells us why he likes piercing as a kind of erotic sensation play. We also talk about how much tougher the Hep C virus is to kill than the HIV virus (bleach doesn’t always work – but we talk about what does kill Hep C). Jorge will tell us a really shocking way people can get exposed to Hep C without even realizing it! Then we will talk about how to open your marriage in a safe way with Andrew Sullivan. “Open Invitation: A Real Swinger’s Party” is an adult film that is an invitation to the viewer to fulfill their own fantasies! Plus, kink star Maxine Holloway of the Femina Potens art gallery will tell us about the “Art of Restraint.” You can also check out SaferSexC.org for more information on preventing the spread of Hepatitis C in the Kink Community.

Sexploration with Monika – Sex in the City in Drag: Grrl Power & Strip-Mining the Spectrum of Sex

billschiffler — Wed, 23 Jan 2013 05:01:22 +0000

Has the say-anything 30-something grrl-power brunches of Sex in the City really come so far from the women’s consciousness-raising circles that fueled the women’s liberation movement of the 60′s and 70′s? Yes and no, especially Trannyshack’s all-drag version at Rebel – with drag queens (some that were even born women), drag kings, and even raunchier more irreverent jokes than the HBO version. Heklina’s Carrie Bradshaw is hilarious. Next-level ridiculous and absurd while still eerily recognisable as are the rest of the foursome: Samantha, Miranda, and Charlotte. Trannyshack performs episodes of Sex in the City at Rebel in two shows every Wednesday night. Hilarious, saucy, and irreverent. Join me and my girls at opening night of Trannyshack’s Sex in the City for giggles and even empowerminty strip-mining of dominant culture sexual foibles. Glorious fun and a great girl’s night out even if you are not (always) a girl.

Sexploration with Monika – Inches for Charity, the cockumentary, and Erotic Breath Play w/ Dr. Kemi

billschiffler — Wed, 16 Jan 2013 05:01:09 +0000

Inches for Charity, a “cockumentary” about penis size, intends to raise money for an orphanage in South Africa for children with AIDS. We spoke with director Nicholas Sher about “the penis rack” – the only proven method for permanent penis enlargement, and Dr. Kemi Ando just happens to be in the studio to tell us if in fact stretching your penis is really safe. Token Straight Guy Jim Stone gets double-bonus points for trying on the penis rack. Divine-Interventions.com (makers of holy objects for your pleasure parts) has donated the craziest and most beautiful silicone wang I have ever seen, and yes it is holy. Meanwhile, Dr. Kemi Ando, who did her dissertation on erotic breath play, is chock-full of helpful information, as then she tells us some harm-reduction tips on how (if you are going to play with breath control or choke your partner) not end up brain-damaged. We also have a very interesting conversation about breath play and sitting-on-your-face and nitrous oxide, aka whippits or “hippy crack.” Jim gets even more gold stars when he surprises us about what he did while wearing the extender. What a guy!!! Dr. Kemi and I are impressed and giggling at the same time. Somehow we manage to get back on track with Dr. Kemi’s events like “Cum for a Cause” and the Society of Janus “Munch.”

Sexploration with Monika – Hack Your Relationship: Tips For

billschiffler — Wed, 09 Jan 2013 05:01:31 +0000

No matter where you are in your relationship there are simple tricks to make communication, collaboration, and trust easier and more automatic. Many of these ideas tap into scientific research on brain chemistry and the subconscious mind. You can make arguments more mutually helpful if you know how to deal with getting emotionally triggered. There are even body postures and subconscious cues to yourself and your partner that stimulate natural peace-making. What do you need to know about yourself and your partner so you can allow each other to cool off and reconnect? Relationship & sex educator Reid Mihalko, creator of Relationship 10X, will exchange relationship ninja techniques with me on everything from beverages to body language. You can use these ideas to hack your relationship and facilitate deeper intimacy. With these relationship tools, you can navigate difficult conversations more smoothly and make even an argument productive and positive.
Relationship 10X

Sexploration with Monika – Deepen Your Relationship With Sex, Magic with Real-World Benefits!

billschiffler — Wed, 02 Jan 2013 05:01:11 +0000

Dr. Janelle Alex and Rob Alex have found that adding intention, awareness, and a belief in sacredness to their sex life has brought them not only increased intimacy and pleasure, they’ve experienced real-world benefits as well, opportunities and promotions that come to them like magic after they connect on the physical plane. What can you create with the powerful energy of sexuality? Healing, manifestation, or even if you just want to have fun and add a spark of adventure to your relationship, SexyChallenges.com has an intimate adventure or twelve for you. Rob and Janelle will describe several Sexy Challenges that they’ve tried, tested and laid out for you, and they’ll tell the incredible story of what real magic sex brings to their lives. Not only is sex fun, but it can transcend what most people think is even possible. Dr. Janelle Alex will also tell us about InwardOasis.com, where she help women connect with their sacred selves so that they can fuel the rest of their lives with love and vitality. Rob & Janelle not only help couples spice up their love life, they also work on compassionate communication with The Couple’s Spot. They’ll tell us the most simple way to diffuse an argument, that most of us habitually destroy. Do you want a more fun, successful, and special relationship? While we’ve discussed sacred sex ideas like tantra, orgasmic meditation, and even sacred BDSM before, this is a particularly magical and mind-blowing episode of Sexploration with Monika. You won’t believe what sex, intention, and awareness can do, perhaps you should experiment with it yourself!

Sexploration with Monika – Festive Feminists, Queers, & Goddess-Worshippers

billschiffler — Wed, 26 Dec 2012 05:01:21 +0000

We all have to survive the holiday season whether or not we have a halo. Who sings carols for the outcasts? Crackpot Crones Terry Baum and Carolyn Myers, who have done holiday sketch theater and improv for a combined 108 years. They celebrate feminism, political protest, social justice, and being different with laughter while claiming “crazy” and “crone,” because surviving the perpetual witch hunt of patriarchy is nothing to hide. We’ll sing along with the 12 Days of Family Insults, and certainly Moishe the Green-Nosed Herring will soon be your kids’ favorite. Has anyone ever tried to get you to pretend or look different than you really are for a holiday dinner? “Bubbie and her Butch” tells the story of a lesbian couple, a Hanukkah party, and a ridiculously jangly pair of earrings. You will not believe the story the Virgin Mary (or should I say Version Mary) tells to her beloved acolyte in Russia or 1962, where Mary (and all religion) may be outlawed, but abortion is legal. Pussy Riot’s “Punk Prayer” to oust Putin gets Mary’s compassionate ear too. When you’re in the old folks home would you plan your escape to protest unmanned warfare drones in Pakistan? “Crones for the Holidays” manages to be fun, funny, and a laser-pointer of social justice activism.

Sexploration with Monika – Your Daily 3-Minute Orgasm & Clit Like a Soccer Ball

billschiffler — Wed, 19 Dec 2012 05:01:37 +0000

How could you be so turned on and sensitive that your clitoris felt like a soccer ball? What are the effects of having a 3-minute orgasm every day? Hint: it’s not losing sleep, you only have to wake 5 min earlier. How could menopause be PLEASURABLE? How can masturbation help you experience more pleasure with a partner? How can you get more experiences of sensuality simply by shifting your awareness? How can you fit a commitment to pleasure in your busy day? How would a daily commitment to pleasure expand your sense of relaxation? I’m on the 3-Day Sensuality Retreat with the sensual researchers of the Welcomed Consensus. We’ll explore deliberate orgasm or “doing,” a practice of focusing on the pleasurable sensations of the clit being stroked. Yvonne Wray of Menopause-Flashes.com will tell us how she transformed her experience of menopause from fear to fun by letting go and being presence in the moment. Daisy Meyer uses the power of friendship and masturbation to transform communication in a relationship in a pleasure-oriented way. Cedric will tell us how the clitoris can feel like a soccer ball in sensation, and use awareness to feel every stitch on the head or glans of the clitoris with his fingertip. Then co-founder Francoise Devresse will tell us about the Observation of Intense Coming and invite you to try a daily 3-minute orgasm (as a founder of the Welcomed Consensus she’s had an orgasm every day for 18 years) and tell us how anyone can create more pleasure in their life, in their body.

Sexploration with Monika – Bondage, Clowns, Gods, Piercing, & Sex-Positive Parenting

billschiffler — Wed, 12 Dec 2012 05:01:38 +0000

You can join us now in the leather-scented midst of the Sexploration with Monika bondage dinner at supperclub. We’ll speak with educator of adventurous sexuality Midori about her history with performance art, Italian Clowns, donuts with an especially messy surprise, and the Japanese art of flower arranging and bondage. Then Midori will introduce us to blogger and sex-positive parent Lidia Anain who’ll open our eyes about parenting strategies that consider consent and autonomy. Dorian Faust describes her burlesque interpretation of pagan deity Baphomet, representing the duality of male and female. Then erotic piercing performer Lady Samar will tell us why she likes hanging from hooks in her flesh. Thanks to the lovely Julia O Test for the photos from the bondage dinner!

Sexploration with Monika – A Trannyshack Xmas for Everyone w/ The Golden Girls

billschiffler — Wed, 05 Dec 2012 05:01:23 +0000

If you are gay, transgender, kinky, or any kind of black sheep sometimes there are Christmases that you make your own “intentional family” out of friends, roommates, and people that accept you the way you are. Heklina started the legendary drag show Trannyshack in San Francisco and for Christmas she’s been taking Golden Girls episodes to the stage, the “girls” played by Drag Queens (men dressed like women) for some gender-bending, heart-warming, campy hilarity. What does family mean when you take the being-related part away? What’s it like to be a drag queen? How do these ginormous guys become women? What’s the most important part of your grooming arsenal as a drag performer? What if a person that was born a woman wants to be drag queen? Trannyshack’s The Golden Girls: The Christmas Episodes 2012 is playing December 6th to the 30th at the Victoria Theater at Mission and 16th Streets. If your family thinks you’re a freak, with whom do you spend your Christmas (and isn’t it maybe better anyway to spend Xmas with people who love and accept you unconditionally)?

Sexploration with Monika – Masquerotica

billschiffler — Wed, 28 Nov 2012 05:01:13 +0000

You can join us right now at the big sexY costume party Masquerotica where thousands of people are saying yes to what they think is fun, and consent is the new sexy (not that consent ever goes out of style;). We’ll interview SF’s sex-positive glitterati, a latex snow leopard, vampire food, and erotic electrifier, the leader of the apocalypse army, and a very kinky clown about how knowing that you can say no, makes it save for you to say yes, to all sorts of experiences and pleasures and sexy moments that we’d like to share with you live, on-location from Masquerotica 2012. From Barron Scott Levkoff to Kracker the Klown, and plenty of sights, sounds, and sensations in between we’ll talk about consent and exploration up one side and down the other all over this party. Plus we’ll learn how electricity on skin can actually relax and excite some people so much that they have 4 orgasms (with their clothes on & not even touching any “naughty” bits!) Violet Wand virtuoso William from Bondage-A-Go-Go will reveal some of his electricity play techniques and unexpected “special spots.” How can you start a Kinky Salon in your hometown? There’s a KinkyWiki for you DIY community creators and creatrixes!

Sexploration with Monika – Sex Robots: sex + technology = ?

billschiffler — Wed, 21 Nov 2012 05:01:48 +0000

You can join me at the Arse Elektronika Porn & Technology conference where they had a sex robot that looked like Johnny 5. One arm of the sex robot is a “tongue saw,” with 12 moulded rubber tongues that flap around in a circle, back through a bucket of lube, with variable speeds. One women who tried it said that it feels “mechanical”. Mmmmmmechanical? Are sex robots the future of sex? We talk with Binx, a fabulous young lady who gave the sex robot for a spin (on a whim), ejaculated, and had this spectacular explosively pleasurable experience (behind a sheet). We also talk to Jake and Ian who work for the company that owned the sex robot. We talk about all the strange machines that have been invented or modified for sexual pleasure (egg beaters, power tools, electrical zappers) and what it means to have sex with a robot. Is having sex with a robot cheating on your boyfriend? What if he gets jealous? Does having sex with a robot “ruin” sex with a normal person? What does female ejaculation feel like? Can you be a feminist and have sex with a robot (in front of a roomful of people)? Is there feminist pornography? What happens if you are having long-distance computer-assisted sex with a robot, and someone hacks into your connection so now you are having sex with a robot that is no longer controlled by your boyfriend? Consent in the context of computer security and tele-dildonics? What if someone wants to marry their robot someday?

Sexploration with Monika – Masquerotica: End the Battle of the Sexes

billschiffler — Wed, 14 Nov 2012 05:01:59 +0000

You can hunt sexperts with me at Masquerotica! At’s SF’s biggest sexY party, we’ll learn the secrets of animal play, why this beautiful woman likes pain, and mmmoore, but first, join me and Sacred Courtesan School and Knights of Eros founder Francesca Gentille for a surprisingly simple way to end the battle of the sexes. You’ve been hurt by the opposite sex? What’s the answer? (Cause I’m pretty sure it’s not pushing harder or more cold shoulder.) We’ll talk about how you can find common ground, how to drop in to the present with a stranger, and how to reach past your fear, lightly. Francesca tells a compelling story from the playa about how the biggest wounds of men and women can create an even longer battle, unless we see what we’re doing and drop into compassion and connection. Also, how you can create juicy energy and attract people to you! Where does juicy energy come from? You can join us right now at Masquerotica, SF’s biggest sexY party… and this is just a TEASE – there’s more sparkle and shiny sex-positive goodness yet to come!

Sexploration with Monika – Conscious Sensuality & Using Sensation to Increase Awareness

billschiffler — Wed, 07 Nov 2012 05:01:58 +0000

You can join tantric masseuse and sensuality coach Robert Silber and I in bed for a discussion about how focusing on sensation can increase your awareness, and how being in touch with your emotions can help you connect with your sexuality and sensuality. We’ll discuss the neurological circuitry that hooks up your autonomic nervous system (in charge of sex and keeping you alive) via your emotions to your thoughts and experiences, and how integrating your experiences through acknowledging them via breath sound and movement can really help you both master and free all of your expression both in bed and out. If you were wondering, Robert and I are at sex educator Reid Mihalko and Allison Moon’s sex geek brunch, so we hid away in Allison & Reid’s bed to bring you the scoop on sensations, emotions, and letting your cat out of the bag. We also connect his work to Orgasmic Meditation and multiple orgasms for men, which we’ve discussed in earlier episodes of Sexploration with Monika.

Sexploration with Monika – Sex and Musicals: Are you a GirlFag?

billschiffler — Wed, 31 Oct 2012 04:01:05 +0000

You can join author Janet Hardy and I at the Wicked Grounds kinky coffee shop for a discussion of sex, musicals, gender, being highly sexual, being in love with gay men, unfolding the mysteries of hanky code, fluidity, beyond binaries, and consent at a book reading of her new book, “GirlFag: a Life told in Sex and Musicals.” Janet Hardy co-wrote the Ethical Slut, The Topping Book, The Bottoming Book, and many other sex-positive classics with Dossie Easton. Janet’s latest book details her life as a girlfag, visits girlfags past and present like the girlfag pharaoh of Egypt and a British expat writer in South Africa. Girlfag, while gleefully recalling musical theatre numbers, also sifts through the shifting meanings of gender and sexual orientation. Monika wonders if she too is not just a “fruit fly,” but also a girlfag. Janet has also started a new book publishing house, Beyond Binary, and we discuss how fun it is to slide between things both literally and figuratively.

Sexploration with Monika – Pussyfest plus Folsom Sexy Street Fair

billschiffler — Wed, 24 Oct 2012 04:01:55 +0000

You can join us right now on location at two very sexy parties: Kinky Salon’s Pussyfest (San Francisco’s friskiest sex party) and Folsom Street Fair, where hundreds of thousands of sexy fetish, latex, & leather-clad party-goers pack themselves onto Folsom street in San Francisco’s SoMa District. We’ll talk about how social networking is leading to more authenticity and sex-positivity with Eamon Armstrong of Masquerotica, plus Wicked Grounds SF’s kinky coffeeshop co-owner PsychoKitty dishes about his favorite tricks with dog bowls and miles of hemp rope, then the deliciously feathery Belle Phénomène tells us how she went from a life of abuse and slut-shaming to being proud of being authentically her own beautiful freak through burlesque! Then, at Folsom Street Fair, Scott Levkoff, co-founder of the Kinky Salon, is at the Masquerotica booth primping the tentacled post-apocalyptic angels of sexy-wierditude, corseted, headressed, and protuberantly costumed himself. How to make a sexy party of thousands of people safer? Also, we track down Bent who started a Kinky Salon in Copenhagen, Denmark. What’s it like starting your own Kinky Salon? How do you create a party that is sexy, relaxed, and friendly? How does the oh-so-San-Francisco Kinky Salon translate to other cultures?

Sexploration with Monika – Healed by Strip Tease and All Kinds of Sexy

billschiffler — Wed, 17 Oct 2012 04:01:23 +0000

Can strip tease be healing? You can join me at a burlesque scholarship benefit for victims of rape, sexual abuse, domestic violence, and eating disorders – can learning sexy dance moves (and how to take off clothes teasingly) actually be a part of a healing and empowerment process? How can learning strip tease help you reclaim your body and your sense of “sexy-self-hood?” We’ll talk to a woman who said it’s changed her life – not just by now having glitter all over everything. We’ll talk to survivor and dance instructor Bombshell Betty, scholarship recipient and survivor Valhalla Voom, and MC Odessa Lil at the Elbow Room’s “All Kinds of Sexy.” We are only bummed that we missed The Stripping Granny.

Sexploration with Monika – Slut Walk: Power, Sex, & Consent Culture

billschiffler — Wed, 10 Oct 2012 04:01:20 +0000

You’ve probably heard the question, “But what was she wearing?” Or “Why was she in his room?” when someone talks about rape. Why are we blaming the victim and not talking about the choice of the rapist to force sex? A police officer even said during a safety presentation in a law school in Toronto that to remain safe, “women should avoid dressing like sluts.” When thousands of people showed up to protest in front of the Toronto police department in 2011, the SlutWalk feminist movement began. Since then, SlutWalk marches have spread throughout the United States, Berlin, India, Morocco, Singapore and all over globe. Join us as we celebrate slut-positivity and consent culture at San Francisco’s Slut Walk 2012. We’ll talk to Tommi Avicolli Mecca about Stonewall and the Gay Liberation Front of the 1970′s and the connection between violence against transgender persons and slut-shaming. As we discuss how to stop rape, we’ll also talk about issues for sex-workers, particularly a new law about human trafficking. You’d think that a law claiming to protect victims of human sex trafficking would be supported by sex workers, like Maxine Doogan, the founder of the Erotic Service Provider Legal, Educational and Research Project. You will be shocked when you hear the horrible fine print in this law, as Maxine talks about how sex-workers are abused by police and explains that Prop 35 makes sex workers even more vulnerable. You don’t even have to BE a slut to appreciate living in a slut-positive world. Jadelynn Stall, one of the organizers of SlutWalk SF Bay, deconstructs how social power and sexual power are affected by blaming the victim, slut-shaming, and infantilizing the rapist – and how we can speak out, claiming our right to safety no matter where we are, what we’re doing, or what clothes we’re wearing, if we’re sluts and even if we’re not sluts.

Sexploration with Monika – Sex vs SexY parties & the Holy G-rail

billschiffler — Wed, 03 Oct 2012 04:01:04 +0000

Do you think the G-spot could be the real Holy Grail? Everybody’s always looking for it… and Michael Schuessler’s surprising secret to finding what he calls “The Holy G-rail” is *texture!* Plus you’ll learn some ways to intensify your orgasm and improve your health at the same time! Most people limit sex to the bedroom, but how do public sex spaces like Kinky Salon and the Armory change the way we relate to intimacy, pleasure, & each other? San Francisco’s Sluttiest Blogger Vanessa Pinto aka Fleur De Lis and porn star and bondage rigger Jack Hammer describe parties where sex is literally on the table. Sex with strangers? Just how strange are they? Or how about a party where you only go to 2nd base, and people are making out on dozens of beds? Much of SF’s sex-positive glitterati like Annie Sprinkle, Carol Queen, Margo St James, Club Kiss, Anon Salon, and Club Exotica are throwing their big sexY annual Halloween costume party, Masquerotica (2012′s party is Saturday, October 21st). It’s all the sexy of a 2nd base party, with all the attention to creating a safe space for sexual expression of Kinky Salon without “going all the way,” and leaving room for thousands of people to shake their sexy groove things and make out unrepentantly.

Sexploration with Monika – Cum, Glitter, Race Politics, & Consent Culture

billschiffler — Wed, 26 Sep 2012 04:01:58 +0000

You can’t get a ticket to this Saturday’s pre-Folsom performance of Cum and Glitter, a secret live sex-show for and by sex workers, but you can join us now at their (un)dress rehearsal! We’ll talk with Dorian Faust, queen of indie burlesque, about her & Eve’s “fall from grace” – a burlesque-ter-bation! Also race politics in taking off your clothes professionally. Then we’ll talk to Kitty Stryker, sex-worker and “Purrversitility” blogger, about her military spanky-the-klown (or spanking the clown scene) scene, creating consent culture, and working as a “fat” sex worker. Kitty and her sex-positive colleagues Kelly Shibari, and others did a presentation on the challenges of being – or being perceived as “fat” for the kind of sex work you are doing… there are positive, healing things about “fat sex work” Kitty adds, as well. How can you contribute to consent culture? Very literally, in fact.

Sexploration with Monika – Guide to Sex Parties & Sexy Parties: Safety & Freedom

billschiffler — Wed, 19 Sep 2012 04:01:53 +0000

You probably didn’t talk about the way sex parties work in your sex ed class, did you? Is it a free-for-all? What are “the rules?” How in a sea of sexy writhing bodies on a dance floor of 20 or 200 are you supposed to behave if a complete stranger is shaking their lightly-clad groove thing within reach? What exactly is “an invitation?” How to make sure everyone feels safe enough to be sexually free? We’ll talk with Barron Scott Levkoff, co-founder of Kinky Salon about all that’s going into making a sexy party safe for thousands of people for October 20th’s Masquerotica in San Francisco. Then we’ll discuss Pepper Mint’s Guide to Sex Parties before the Folsom Leather & BDSM street fair after-party at Mission Control, “Threshold,” on Sunday, September 23rd, 2012.

Sexploration with Monika – Female Ejaculation, Tantra, & a journey from sexual assault to sexual freedom

billschiffler — Wed, 12 Sep 2012 04:01:22 +0000

Did you learn in sex ed that women can ejaculate? Do you know how to give your lover feedback when something isn’t working for you without hurting their feelings? How do we get from feeling wounded sexually to sexual freedom? We’ll discuss Female Liquid Orgasms with Squirtxspert Tallulah Sulis, Sacred Love Tantra with Evalena Rose, and interview the author of “Soul Laundering,” where a rape & murder drives an epic journey of sexual awakening, healing, and finding one’s own power. If you dare to listen to this show, you’ll learn more about connecting to the present moment through sexual connection, and how to give well-received suggestions when your lover needs to do that just a little bit more to the left (or lighter, or softer, or harder, or faster, or slower, or deeper, or with more lube, or whatever). Plus, you’ll learn more about G-Spot Orgasms with the juicy Ms. Tallulah Sulis. Author Ishtar Raizine bares her soul talking about her novel “Soul Laundering,” we’ll talk about sexual healing and get a glimpse of the not-too-distant future of human sexuality where everybody wins and has big juicy consensual multiple orgasms with the gods and goddesses that are YOU. Awoman and Amen! This is one juicy, sacred hour of Sexploration with Monika.

Sexploration with Monika – COYOTE/St James Infirmary founder Margo St James, Non-monogamy, & Sex Ed

billschiffler — Wed, 05 Sep 2012 04:02:03 +0000

You’ll hear legendary sex-positive feminist Margo St James talk about the birth of the sex-worker rights movement in San Francisco plus her checkered past with politics, law-enforcement, and her relationship with Paul Avery, a newspaper man of note. Margo St. James founded COYOTE “Call Off Your Old Tired Ethics” the sex-worker activism group in 1973 after novelist Tom Robbins called St. James “the coyote trickster.” Margo St James also ran and won San Francisco Board of Supervisors and founded the St James Infirmary, an occupational clinic for sex-workers in San Francisco. Margo St James, Annie Sprinkle, Carol Queen, and I curated the Hooker’s Ball Brothello stage at Masquerotica 2011. This year, Masquerotica will be Saturday, October 20th. On this episode (that was recorded 10/14/2011), we also talk about the trials and joys of open relationships and asking for what you want with Marcia Baczynski, and erotic edu-tainer Spycey Spyce will make us giggle while teaching about safer sex and intimate communication. With Token Straight Guy Johnny Wang!

Sexploration with Monika – Shutting down illegitimate rape culture, getting laid more often, & how to drive a vulva

billschiffler — Wed, 29 Aug 2012 04:00:18 +0000

Would you have believed a US Congressman could be so dangerously, offensively ignorant of the realities sexual assault and the very functionality of the female reproductive system before Republican Todd Akin blurted out “If it’s legitimate rape, the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down?” That’s simply just not at all medically accurate, not to mention how incredibly unhelpful that statement would be as part of your doctor’s mandates! Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com, and Allison Moon of Lesbian Werewolves.com are not only sex-educators, but they’re a couple and I am literally in bed with them. We’ll examine Todd Akin’s blunder and talk about how this kind of idiocy affects women and the culture, and we’ll also explore how to be a gentlemen and get laid more often, the genderless joy of taints, how to drive a vulva, if a balloon orgy pops with glory holes, and how your letting your freak flag fly can rock your creativity. We’ll also discuss a Sexploration with Monika listener question about when one partner wants to explore something kinda freaky and the other one is completely sexually shut down – which is tricky, because even after you try to find out about WHY your partner is sexually shut down, you both have to accept the other as is, because from celibate to freaky-deaky every person has a right to their sexuality – but how to make the unmatched sex drives work?

Sexploration with Monika – Sex at Burning Man, DIY Goddess Temples, and Brothels Serving Women

billschiffler — Wed, 22 Aug 2012 04:01:02 +0000

Your relationship on Burning Man: You’ve barely slept or eaten in 6 days and dehydrated not just because it’s the desert but also your water bottle tastes like warm plastic dust. You were distracted by a glimpse of your old boss on a bike wearing nothing but a backpack and sneakers, so a luminescent green dragon just drove away with your sweetie and 17 gorgeous half-naked strangers. Nothing goes as planned on the playa especially sex and relationships. Burning Man isn’t “one giant orgy,” but there are a few(!) – plus workshops on female ejaculation, bondage, and polyamory, “hands on” sex classes, and even the “Great Canadian Beaver-Eating Contest” in which no beavers are hurt non-consensually. Join Sexploration with Monika in the moonlight at Fugue, a camp-out in Northern California as we talk with Epiphany Jordan about building a temple to the goddess in Texas (The Blue Star Temple), the benefits of tantra, what a brothel for women might look like, and how to build sexual energy into your real estate.

Sexploration with Monika – Multiple Orgasms for Men and Full-Body Energy Non-Ejaculative Orgasms

billschiffler — Wed, 15 Aug 2012 04:01:00 +0000

Did you know that men can have multiple orgasms? Dr. James Rolwing, chiropractor and author of “Multiple Orgasms for Men Made Simple” says that not only can any man have multiple, full-body energetic orgasms but that the idea that your sexual energy has to diminish with age is total bunk. With non-ejaculative energy orgasms, you can experience not only greater control and relaxation during sex, but also your relationship to pleasure and arousal builds and deepens with practice. Dr. Rolwing has been doing this for over 20 years, and has distilled breathing and muscular exercises that can help you have multiple full-body orgasms. You don’t have to hold it, think about baseball, disconnect from how good it feels, just desperately hoping that you don’t ejaculate, because you can redirect the energy and have a different kind of orgasm entirely. We’ll discuss energetic full-body orgasms, what they feel like, how to have them, and why the vast majority of us have no clue about them. We’ll also discuss some of the beliefs of ancient Taoist and Tantric practices that can hold you back and aren’t relevant to today’s understanding of sexuality. You don’t have to necessarily be into sacred or spiritual sexuality to get this practice, and the important thing is that anyone can do it. We’ll also discuss how the power of sexuality, and the power of multiple orgasms has been used to consolidate power for a minority of people throughout history. Is this what you learned in sex ed? Probably not, but we’ll also cover how young men can get a better understanding about of their sexual impulses and how to deal with them. Climax is not only an unpredictable product of urgency, a force of nature to be held back. But is it unnatural to reversing the flow? Dr. Rolwing will explain that it’s one of our numerous innate abilities that we have unknowingly sacrificed in the process of socialization, like breathing. Also, we’ll discuss why even if you’re having a non-ejaculative orgasm, you’re still at risk for pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections, so you should still use a condom. And it might even help. But, once you have mastered multiple full-body non-ejaculative orgasms, can you still ejaculate if you feel like it? Multiple Orgasms are elusive and rare among women, and among men, the phenomenon is mostly unrecognised by pop culture, even many sex ed classes! How can men have multiple orgasms? And what does this breathing and muscular technique do for women – besides what it does for their partner’s stamina? Does aging *have* to mean that you lose your mojo over time? I’ll give you a hint. It gets better… with practice.

Sexploration with Monika – The Complex Economies of Art, Sex, and Desire

billschiffler — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 04:01:55 +0000

If you could have anything, what would you choose? If you had 20 minutes with a sex worker what would you want? If you had 15 minutes on stage what would you want? If you had 20 minutes with a healer what would you want? If a starving artist isn’t making money, what do they get out of making art? What does a sex-worker get out of sex-work besides money? What skills are in a sex-workers’ body of knowledge? What work does a sex-worker share with the world? What are the economies of art, sexuality, and desire? In addition to money and capitalism, what are some of the other economies that we use? Especially in marginalized communities, sex-workers, activists, healers, artists… there are community networks of barter, trade, trust and collaboration. How can asking for what we want change the world? We’ll discus the “This is What I Want” Festival with Tessa Wills, artistic director and activist for sex-worker advocacy. We’ll discuss performance art, and the intersections of the starving artist and the underground economy of erotic service providers.

Sexploration with Monika – Occupy Your Body, Ending Jealousy, and other pleasurevolutions…

billschiffler — Wed, 01 Aug 2012 04:01:27 +0000

How much of your time are you “in” your body, and how often are you in your head? You’ve heard of “Occupy Wall Street,” but what about Occupy Your Body? In our virtual, abstract, and mentally productive lives, it’s easy to live mostly experiencing life as your mind, rather than experiencing from your body. We more often think about what our bodies look like than what they feel like, experiencing our bodies as a separate object from ourselves!!! In addition to diminishing sensation and pleasure, our separation from our bodies affects our self-image, our sexuality, our relationships, our sense of aliveness, and can eventually harm health and well-being. Steve Bearman, founder of the Interchange Counseling Institute, also tells us about how being present in the moment can help us connect with other people and transform our relationships, revolutionizing jealousy, arguments, and break-ups. We’ll talk about his classes “Healing Body Shame,” “Ending Jealousy Permanently,” “How to LOSE an Argument,” and “The Power of Goodbye.” How can you Occupy Your Body more deeply and frequently and how will that ignite your sexuality? What does your body truly find *pleasurable!?*

Sexploration with Monika – Marquis de Sade: Revolution & Theatre of the Insane

billschiffler — Wed, 25 Jul 2012 04:01:21 +0000

Not only were sadism and sadistic sadists named after him, the Marquis de Sade was a writer! In addition, to the 90-feet of fiction he wrote on toilet paper in prison… the Marquis de Sade wrote theatre in his insane asylum and his fellow inmates played the parts! Now at the Brava Theatre in San Francisco, Marat/Sade plays the fury, passion, and philosophy of the Marquis de Sade off of doomed dictator of the French revolution Jean-Paul Marat. His fate awaits: counter-revolutionary Charlotte Corday will stab him in his bathtub 13 July 1793. The Marquis and Marat are both so tortured, and Charlotte is headed for the guillotine even before the stabbing… who will “win” the revolution? You’ll listen to Marat talk about the bankers, politicians, war-mongers, and stockbrokers that betray the people – does it remind you of any bubble bursting with big bank bailouts and bonuses and Inflated securities? Today’s 99% and the occupy wall street movement are bringing up the same issues today! You can get tickets to Marat/Sade at Thrillpeddlers.com, shows are Wednesday through Sunday until July 29th. It’s hard to say who really wins a revolution… unless we’re talking about the pleasurevolution where everyone wins! We’ll talk more about desire, consent, and social justice on the next episode on Sexploration with Monika – where we pretend to be only talking about sex – but actually we’re cheerleaders for the pleasurevolution! Don’t miss an episode by subscribing on iTunes, archived episodes, free downloads, and photos at SexplorationwithMonika.com.

Sexploration with Monika – What Do You Want? Getting the Kinks Out with Mistress Minax

billschiffler — Wed, 18 Jul 2012 04:00:39 +0000

What do you really want? If someone gave you the opportunity to really ask for your erotic or experiential desires, what would you ask for?
What kind of touch, healing, sensation or stimulation? Of course, even though you paid a small fee for your ticket, you only get 20 minutes, but what’s on the menu may surprise you with it’s depth, breadth, and complexity. These are real erotic service providers and your wishes will be taken completely seriously. The “This is What I Want Festival” at the Center for Sex and Culture is an experiential performance art piece conceptualizing the economy of desire. We’ll discuss desire, desires, and more with professional dominatrix and sex educator Eve Minax, who was one of the artists at the event. We’ll find out what she offered, and what audience members experienced.
We’ll also discuss how trauma can affect your sex life, and how to heal. You’ll learn what Trauma Release Exercises from Dr. David Berceli have to do with your thrusting and flight-or-flight muscle.
Eve and I are in the Minax Mini-Mansion and Dungeonette, and we’ll also discuss the 3-day Dominance Intensive for which she is currently packing her paddles, whips, and shiny boots. Her other classes, like “You’re Going to Need an Enema for That” are nearly literally a three-ring circus of surprises! We’ll also learn how she “gets the kinks out” of her ever-so-willing “patients” in medical play scene. Is there a connection between the spiritual side of sexuality and BDSM, what’s tantra got to do with kinky sex? Can you can teach someone how to kiss?

Eve Minax http://eveminax.com/

Dr. David Berceli http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DisF0jYqRrg

Sexploration with Monika – Masculinism & Multiple Orgasms for Men

billschiffler — Wed, 11 Jul 2012 04:00:45 +0000

Have you ever wondered how to leave a woman wanting more? Have you ever wondered what it’s like to have a penis? Monika has, and gets the lowdown on having penis and how to use it from Erotic Rockstar Destin Gerek. Destin is a Certified Somatic Sexologist and Orgasmic Mastery educator who teaches men how to have multiple orgasms. That wasn’t a typo. He teaches a course on multiple orgasms for MEN! We delve into radical masculinity, liberation from gender roles, how to ‘nail’ hot feminist chicks, sexual self actualization, and how to change the culture of rape. The Erotic Rockstar divulges his philosophy on how to find and become your ideal sexual self, be present in your body and your sexual explorations, and get more out of your erotic encounters than a “quick and silent” orgasm. Have you ever wondered how to leave a woman wanting more? Mmmore. Find out why being a “pick up artist” leads to attracting insecure women and exacerbating “the battle of the sexes.” Instead, learn the secret of how to “entice her desire.” Yum.

Sexploration with Monika – Save the Boobies!!!

billschiffler — Wed, 27 Jun 2012 04:01:13 +0000

Bouncy, pleasure-producing, and mesmerizing, everyone agrees that boobies are awesome… but you’ll be surprised how sensitive breasts are not just sexually, but to our environment! Breasts are getting bigger, arriving earlier and sucking up mysterious chemicals like estrogenic compounds and pesticides. What makes breasts so sensitive? In “Breasts: a Natural and Unnatural History” Florence Williams sets out to completely uncover boobs with the latest science in anthropology, biology, and medicine. She follows the breast through history from puberty to pregnancy to menopause, from eye-tracking studies (how quickly can guys check out boobs?), a plastic surgeon’s office in Texas, to a lab where she discovers the presence of environmental toxins in her own breast milk. Baby’s first dose of JET FUEL? No wonder breast cancer hits one in eight women – but even men can get breast cancer – like a group of over 70 men who lived at the highly contaminated Camp Lejeune. We’ll discuss the threats to boobies and how you can help save them. Florence describes her experience trying to avoid these toxins, and how we need to deal with the problem. Products with fragrances, plastics, BPA, even store and ATM receipts, the chemicals that end up in our boobs are everywhere!

Sexploration with Monika – You can have a THREE HOUR orgasm?

billschiffler — Wed, 20 Jun 2012 04:01:20 +0000

What’s “the point” of having sex? Is the reason we have sex to achieve the climax of orgasm or is it to have the whole experience of pleasure and connection that you and your partner share? Sheri, of the Welcomed Consensus, tells us that if you can relax into the sensations without getting fixated on a goal, you can feel even more pleasure. In fact, every day for the last 25 years this educator and mother has made time with her partner for a practice that is all about pleasure. It’s called “Deliberate Orgasm” or “DO’ing,” and it’s a practice that focuses attention of the sensations of the clitoris. Sheri says that you can start with even 3 minutes of this practice and start building more pleasure, actually changing your nervous system and allowing you to feel more pleasure, expanding your ability to feel the enegy in your own body. Both men and women can experience Deliberate Orgasm as givers or receivers, and Sheri said that the possibilities are unlimited, even a THREE HOUR ORGASM! We also talk about how the practice of DO’ing cultivates a deep sense of gratification that overflows into every part of her life, work, family, and all her relationships. (Imagine how much easier it is to be nice to everyone after you’ve had a 3-hour orgasm!!!)

Sexploration with Monika – Live at the Masturbate-a-Thon 2012

billschiffler — Wed, 13 Jun 2012 21:27:07 +0000

The Masturbate-A-Thon is a charity event, like a walk-a-thon, that raises money and awareness except at the end your feet don’t hurt… unless you have a really unique way of self-pleasuring! Every year at the Center for Sex and Culture, men and women get pledges or self-pledge and masturbate in public or in private to raise money for the Center For Sex and Culture, a non-profit adult sexuality education center in San Francisco. Porn star Sonny Nash goes hard for duration, trying to beat(off) last year’s record of 9 hours and 59 minutes. You’ll learn the critical importance of masturbation, how it literally got a bad name, and why sex-positive activists are trying to bring masturbation out of the closet. We’ll interview sexologist Dr. Carol Queen co-founder of the Center for Sex and Culture, Sister Taint A Virgin of the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, Library Vixen, Fleur De Lis SF’s sluttiest Blogger, and dominatrix Lady Ripplee Severin. Also I get a bit of a surprise – on my pants, how did that happen? The Center for Sex and Culture’s 12th annual Masturbate-A-Thon.

Sexploration with Monika – Are you or is someone you know a sex addict?

billschiffler — Wed, 06 Jun 2012 04:01:33 +0000

Could you be or is someone you know a sex addict? Is sex an addiction? David Ley, PhD is a a clinical psychologist practicing in New Mexico. He first began treating perpetrators and victims of sexual abuse, but expanded his practice to include the promotion of healthy sexuality and awareness of the wide range of normative sexual behaviors. Dr. Ley discusses the root causes of addiction, brain chemistry, and pleasure chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin. How does sex affect the brain vs a drug or alcohol’s effect? What is addiction? What are the real dangers of the diagnosis of “sex addiction” to free will, your relationship, and to society? What if sex-offenders & rapists get sentenced to sex-addiction treatment facilities rather than prison? What happens when sex is viewed as a disease and too much is believed to be dangerous? Why is sex-addiction dangerous? It’s a discussion critical to the sexual issues facing our society and it’s not what most people think.

Sexploration with Monika – Live at the 8-Course Gourmet Erotic Dinner

billschiffler — Wed, 30 May 2012 04:01:59 +0000

Almost an hour of sex-intellectual on-location interviews from the 8-course gourmet dinner with the best female bondage rigger in the whole world, Midori, sex educator, artist, and dominatrix. We’ll also speak with Fleur de Lis SF, San Francisco’s Sluttiest Blogger aka Vanessa Pinto, and Ultra Violet – and more bay-area sex positive glitterati. We’ll talk about everything from how to be more sexually empowered, feminine dominance, authenticity, and how to tease the fantasy out of your partners mind to why the caviar service here isn’t just scandalously culinarily incorrect but also (oh) so mind-blowingly lip-smacking good to making everyday household objects into sex toys for BDSM fantasies and which ones are safe for sex play and which ones aren’t! More on the connection between food and sex, how you can take caviar or any kind of cuisine to the next level (recipes for pleasure)… and how to avoid the thorny bits of sexual freedom and enjoy the good stuff, and the mysterious but magically effective making out with other people boomerang effect. You can make sure you get the next episode of Sexploration of Monika by subscribing on iTunes and you can always download free episodes on Sexploration with Monika.com.

Sexploration with Monika – Food & Sex: Live Tease for the 8-Course Gourmet Erotic Dinner

billschiffler — Wed, 23 May 2012 04:02:02 +0000

If awareness, mental focus, or consciousness makes food taste better, what does it do to your sex life? Ken is the Soux Chef at the 8-Course Gourmet Dinner. He’s also a martial artist and practices meditation. One of the kinds of meditation he practices is called “stroking” and is associated with the practives of “Deliberate Orgasm,” Orgasmic Meditation,” or “Full-Body Expanded Orgasm.” We’ll discuss how presence in the moment is connected to sex and eroticism and how it can make you more responsive, more connected to your emotions, and able to generate more pleasure. Ken will reveal an exciting secret he discovered about vulnerability being quite the opposite of weakness! Plus, how did this new sense of vulnerability strengthen his martial arts practice? We’ll discuss other interesting effects of 11-hours of silent meditation and the daily practice of the “stroking” meditation affected more than just his mind – or his sex life. If you are craving an evening where desire is celebrated, request an invitation via e-mail at sexplorationwithmonika(at)gmail.com, and more interviews from the 8-course gourmet dinner still to come with Midori, San Francisco’ Sluttiest Blogger Fleur de Lis, Ultra Violet, and more of SF’s sex-positive glitterati about everything from teasing a fantasy out of your partner’s mind, to “pervertable” household items that can be sex toys, to sexual emowerment, and which aphrodesiac is very nutritious, making an excellent salad!

Sexploration with Monika – Strip Clubs & Cupcakes for Social Justice

billschiffler — Wed, 16 May 2012 04:01:59 +0000

You can join the 3 sex-positeers on a cupcake-delivering mission to strip clubs for social justice with Laura Lasky of SolaceSF.org & Fleur De Lis SF’s Sluttiest Blogger. You’ll learn how something as sweet but insubstantial as a cupcake can help empower women and men in the adult entertainment industries. We’re visiting strip clubs in North Beach, and discuss why/how it’s important to show up and be there to help people. As a ex-pastor’s wife and ex-sex-worker, Laura Lasky says that sex work is different in what it does for you and to you than any other profession. SolaceSF offers medical exams, counseling services, career counseling, and help with adult education, personal development, or recovery programs as needed. How can a person have a relationship with spirituality as a sex-worker, especialy as traditional interpretations of Christianity disparage sex-work? We also discuss other sex-workeroutreach projects like SWOP and how important it is to have a community, especially if you are in a profession as stigmatized, complex, and potentially dangerous (and rewarding) as all the different kinds of sex work can be.

Sexploration with Monika – The Technology of Orgasm and Sex Doctors at the Antique Vibe Museum

billschiffler — Wed, 09 May 2012 04:01:41 +0000

Do you know that doctors used to call the female orgasm “hysterical paroxysm?” Join us at the grand opening of the Antique Vibrator Museum. We’ll discuss why learning about the history of vibrators is a women’s liberation issue that is getting even more relevant right NOW – with Emiko Omori & Wendy Slick, the filmmakers of Passion and Power: The Technology of Orgasm. We’ll also speak with two highly progressive doctors of human sexuality, Dr. Carol Queen of the Center for Sex and Culture and Dr. Charlie Glickman about the importance and history of pleasure and sex. Not only will you be surprised that a few men were also treated for hysteria, but how they “treated” it!

Sexploration with Monika – Sex Worker’s Union, Lesbian trapped in a Man’s Body, and the Perils of Public Bathrooms

billschiffler — Wed, 02 May 2012 04:01:06 +0000

With Dr. Carol Queen as our darling docent of the vibe, you can join us at the grand opening of the Antique Vibrator Museum at the Good Vibrations Store on Polk street here in San Francisco. You don’t have to have sex in exchange for $$ for that to be illegal… (you can get on the business end of the criminal justice system even if you’re not a prostitute!) We speak with Maxine Doogan founder of the Erotic Services Provider’s Union about sex-worker rights, decriminalization, stigma and how under criminalization festers violence against sex-workers, even by police. We also discuss the important things that erotic service providers offer that benefit society. Then we find two fabulous and very different transgender sex-positive stars; comedianne Morgan of “Girl Junk” and queer porn star Jiz Lee. Morgan is embarking on her “Girl Junk” tour and documentary. Morgan and I talk about being a lesbian trapped in a man’s body, being very “manly” externally – an iron worker with secretly shaved legs and toenail polish, a life-threatening galvanizing moment that changed her life, and authenticity as essential – even when it’s hard. Queer porn star Jiz Lee and I will talk about the difference between mainstreem porn and queer porn and why it’s important, making sexy art for good causes, and the perils of public bathrooms for transgender people. More sex-intellectual interviews still to come from the Antique Vibrator Museum, Dr. Carol Queen, the filmakers of “Passion & Power: the Technology of Orgasm,” and Dr. Charlie Glickman.