Sexploration with Monika

You’ll hear a variety of experts on Sexploration with Monika, from clinical sexologists and relationship counselors to female ejaculation “squirtxperts” and tantric shaman to BDSM educators and kink porn stars. Let’s intellectually explore the ocean of possibilities in healthy human sexuality. “Sex-positive” means that sex, and pleasure, can be good for you – but only you can define what healthy sexuality is for yourself, and there are a thrillingly infinite number of pathways to pleasure. Favorite interview topics include sensuality as meditation, deconstructing dominant culture inequality & sex-negativity, clear relationship communication skills, the importance of self-pleasuring and good boundaries, creating non-traditional families and communities, investigation of “unusual” sex practices, safer sex techniques, harm reduction strategies, individual choice and responsibility, uncovering new pleasures, & your own personal funlightenment.

           

 

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• Sexploration with Monika - Tantra & Pleasure: the Danger Path?

  Why is Tantra, the "pleasure path" to spirituality, also seen as dangerous? I'm wandering in, around, and above Union Square with Francesca Gentille, founder of the Sacred Courtesan School, the Knights of Eros, and the Temple of Shadows. We'll explore ...

• Sexploration with Monika - Aphrodisiacs and Ingredients for Arousal

  Have you ever wanted to try a real aphrodisiac? Chances are you have - and I don't mean that you've been dosed - because that's not sexy. There are tons of natural aphrodisiacs, and they could have been masquerading as a tossed salad - not THAT kind of...

• Sexploration with Monika - Whore! beauty, power, and subverting dominant culture

  Why should you celebrate female sexual power (even if you are not female)? What do YOU get out of sex-worker activism? Sexploration with Monika is on location at Whore Speaks! celebrating the 2nd issue of Whore! Magazine produced by Ginger Murray with ...

• Sexploration with Monika - Burlesque Self-Esteem Scholarships (All Kinds of Sexy II)

  You can join me on-location now at the glittering "All Kinds of Sexy" burlesque scholarship benefit for victims of rape, domestic violence, and eating disorders from Bombshell Betty. Have you ever been to a dance show where all the dancers looked exact...

• Sexploration with Monika - Add sizzle back into your relationship, and then really turn it up!

  You're in a relationship: at first you are having MIND-BLOWING SEX all the time, but after a while you're having "efficient sex" & then eventually, maybe no sex at all! Why does that always happen in long-term relationships? :( Do you want have lon...

• Sexploration with Monika - Lesbian Love Story from 1890

  What would it have been like for a lady to fall in love with another woman in 1890? Meet Miss Flora Devine, an African-American lady who owns an inn in a small Southern black township in 1890. She does not realize she could be same-sex attracted until ...

• Sexploration with Monika - Interview with a (man who wants to be a real) Fox!

  You probably know someone who dresses up as a kitty for Halloween, or maybe you've worn ears and a tail once or twice... Can you imagine wanting to be an animal for real? Meet Smash, dressed head-to-toe in a red latex fox suit at the supperclub bondage...

• Sexploration with Monika - Masturbate-A-Thon w/ Nina Hartley benefits Center for Sex & Culture

  On-Location broadcast from the Masturbate-a-Thon, a charity event where men and women masturbate in public and in private to raise money for the Center For Sex and Culture, a non-profit adult sexuality education center in San Francisco. Besides trying ...

• Sexploration with Monika - Pleasure is Good For You (Healthy, Healing, Empowering)

  You might want to stop calling it masturbation because the word masturbation literally means "to disturb with the hand." Devi Ward calls it "the art of self pleasure." What's wrong with touching your own pleasure parts? Absolutely nothing, as long as i...

• Sexploration with Monika - The Kinky Salon Memoir and Tango

  Polly Superstar, who co-founded Kinky Salon, is writing her memoirs. Over the last 10-years of throwing San Franfreakshow's most creative sex party she describes her new project KoTango with bestseller "Sex At Dawn" author Christopher Ryan. KoTango is ...

• Sexploration with Monika - The BDSM Tea Party

  In the BDSM Tea party, Monika has a cup of tea with a professional dominatrix, a male slave, a male dominant, and his female partner, a submissive and switch. Monika wants to know what it's like to beat men for a living, what's good about being flogged...

• Sexploration with Monika - SaferSexC, an Open Relationship, and Restraint as Art

  Do you know how to kill the Hepatitis C virus? Hepatitus C is a virus that damages the liver and it is spread by many kinds of kinky play, rough sex, sharing razors or nail clippers. Most people who have Hep C don't know they are infected because they ...

• Sexploration with Monika - Sex in the City in Drag: Grrl Power & Strip-Mining the Spectrum of Sex

  Has the say-anything 30-something grrl-power brunches of Sex in the City really come so far from the women's consciousness-raising circles that fueled the women's liberation movement of the 60's and 70's? Yes and no, especially Trannyshack's all-drag v...

• Sexploration with Monika - Inches for Charity, the cockumentary, and Erotic Breath Play w/ Dr. Kemi

  Inches for Charity, a "cockumentary" about penis size, intends to raise money for an orphanage in South Africa for children with AIDS. We spoke with director Nicholas Sher about "the penis rack" - the only proven method for permanent penis enlargement,...

• Sexploration with Monika - Hack Your Relationship: Tips For <3 + :)

  No matter where you are in your relationship there are simple tricks to make communication, collaboration, and trust easier and more automatic. Many of these ideas tap into scientific research on brain chemistry and the subconscious mind. You can make ...

• Sexploration with Monika - Deepen Your Relationship With Sex, Magic with Real-World Benefits!

  Dr. Janelle Alex and Rob Alex have found that adding intention, awareness, and a belief in sacredness to their sex life has brought them not only increased intimacy and pleasure, they've experienced real-world benefits as well, opportunities and promot...

• Sexploration with Monika - Festive Feminists, Queers, & Goddess-Worshippers

  We all have to survive the holiday season whether or not we have a halo. Who sings carols for the outcasts? Crackpot Crones Terry Baum and Carolyn Myers, who have done holiday sketch theater and improv for a combined 108 years. They celebrate feminism,...

• Sexploration with Monika - Your Daily 3-Minute Orgasm & Clit Like a Soccer Ball

  How could you be so turned on and sensitive that your clitoris felt like a soccer ball? What are the effects of having a 3-minute orgasm every day? Hint: it's not losing sleep, you only have to wake 5 min earlier. How could menopause be PLEASURABLE? Ho...

• Sexploration with Monika - Bondage, Clowns, Gods, Piercing, & Sex-Positive Parenting

  You can join us now in the leather-scented midst of the Sexploration with Monika bondage dinner at supperclub. We'll speak with educator of adventurous sexuality Midori about her history with performance art, Italian Clowns, donuts with an especially m...

• Sexploration with Monika - A Trannyshack Xmas for Everyone w/ The Golden Girls

  If you are gay, transgender, kinky, or any kind of black sheep sometimes there are Christmases that you make your own "intentional family" out of friends, roommates, and people that accept you the way you are. Heklina started the legendary drag show Tr...

• Sexploration with Monika - Masquerotica

  You can join us right now at the big sexY costume party Masquerotica where thousands of people are saying yes to what they think is fun, and consent is the new sexy (not that consent ever goes out of style;). We'll interview SF's sex-positive glitterat...

• Sexploration with Monika - Sex Robots: sex + technology = ?

  You can join me at the Arse Elektronika Porn & Technology conference where they had a sex robot that looked like Johnny 5. One arm of the sex robot is a "tongue saw," with 12 moulded rubber tongues that flap around in a circle, back through a bucke...

• Sexploration with Monika - Masquerotica: End the Battle of the Sexes

  You can hunt sexperts with me at Masquerotica! At's SF's biggest sexY party, we'll learn the secrets of animal play, why this beautiful woman likes pain, and mmmoore, but first, join me and Sacred Courtesan School and Knights of Eros founder Francesca ...

• Sexploration with Monika - Conscious Sensuality & Using Sensation to Increase Awareness

  You can join tantric masseuse and sensuality coach Robert Silber and I in bed for a discussion about how focusing on sensation can increase your awareness, and how being in touch with your emotions can help you connect with your sexuality and sensualit...

• Sexploration with Monika - Sex and Musicals: Are you a GirlFag?

  You can join author Janet Hardy and I at the Wicked Grounds kinky coffee shop for a discussion of sex, musicals, gender, being highly sexual, being in love with gay men, unfolding the mysteries of hanky code, fluidity, beyond binaries, and consent at a...

• Sexploration with Monika - Pussyfest plus Folsom Sexy Street Fair

  You can join us right now on location at two very sexy parties: Kinky Salon's Pussyfest (San Francisco's friskiest sex party) and Folsom Street Fair, where hundreds of thousands of sexy fetish, latex, & leather-clad party-goers pack themselves onto...

• Sexploration with Monika - Healed by Strip Tease and All Kinds of Sexy

  Can strip tease be healing? You can join me at a burlesque scholarship benefit for victims of rape, sexual abuse, domestic violence, and eating disorders - can learning sexy dance moves (and how to take off clothes teasingly) actually be a part of a he...

• Sexploration with Monika - Slut Walk: Power, Sex, & Consent Culture

  You've probably heard the question, "But what was she wearing?" Or "Why was she in his room?" when someone talks about rape. Why are we blaming the victim and not talking about the choice of the rapist to force sex? A police officer even said during a ...

• Sexploration with Monika - Sex vs SexY parties & the Holy G-rail

  Do you think the G-spot could be the real Holy Grail? Everybody's always looking for it... and Michael Schuessler's surprising secret to finding what he calls "The Holy G-rail" is *texture!* Plus you'll learn some ways to intensify your orgasm and impr...

• Sexploration with Monika - Cum, Glitter, Race Politics, & Consent Culture

  You can't get a ticket to this Saturday's pre-Folsom performance of Cum and Glitter, a secret live sex-show for and by sex workers, but you can join us now at their (un)dress rehearsal! We'll talk with Dorian Faust, queen of indie burlesque, about her ...

• Sexploration with Monika - Guide to Sex Parties & Sexy Parties: Safety & Freedom

  You probably didn't talk about the way sex parties work in your sex ed class, did you? Is it a free-for-all? What are "the rules?" How in a sea of sexy writhing bodies on a dance floor of 20 or 200 are you supposed to behave if a complete stranger is s...

• Sexploration with Monika - Female Ejaculation, Tantra, & a journey from sexual assault to sexual freedom

  Did you learn in sex ed that women can ejaculate? Do you know how to give your lover feedback when something isn't working for you without hurting their feelings? How do we get from feeling wounded sexually to sexual freedom? We'll discuss Female Liqui...

• Sexploration with Monika - COYOTE/St James Infirmary founder Margo St James, Non-monogamy, & Sex Ed

  You'll hear legendary sex-positive feminist Margo St James talk about the birth of the sex-worker rights movement in San Francisco plus her checkered past with politics, law-enforcement, and her relationship with Paul Avery, a newspaper man of note. Ma...

• Sexploration with Monika - Shutting down illegitimate rape culture, getting laid more often, & how to drive a vulva

  Would you have believed a US Congressman could be so dangerously, offensively ignorant of the realities sexual assault and the very functionality of the female reproductive system before Republican Todd Akin blurted out "If it's legitimate rape, the fe...

• Sexploration with Monika - Sex at Burning Man, DIY Goddess Temples, and Brothels Serving Women

  Your relationship on Burning Man: You've barely slept or eaten in 6 days and dehydrated not just because it's the desert but also your water bottle tastes like warm plastic dust. You were distracted by a glimpse of your old boss on a bike wearing nothi...

• Sexploration with Monika - Multiple Orgasms for Men and Full-Body Energy Non-Ejaculative Orgasms

  Did you know that men can have multiple orgasms? Dr. James Rolwing, chiropractor and author of “Multiple Orgasms for Men Made Simple” says that not only can any man have multiple, full-body energetic orgasms but that the idea that your sexual energ...

• Sexploration with Monika - The Complex Economies of Art, Sex, and Desire

  If you could have anything, what would you choose? If you had 20 minutes with a sex worker what would you want? If you had 15 minutes on stage what would you want? If you had 20 minutes with a healer what would you want? If a starving artist isn't maki...

• Sexploration with Monika - Occupy Your Body, Ending Jealousy, and other pleasurevolutions...

  How much of your time are you "in" your body, and how often are you in your head? You've heard of "Occupy Wall Street," but what about Occupy Your Body? In our virtual, abstract, and mentally productive lives, it’s easy to live mostly experiencing li...

• Sexploration with Monika - Marquis de Sade: Revolution & Theatre of the Insane

  Not only were sadism and sadistic sadists named after him, the Marquis de Sade was a writer! In addition, to the 90-feet of fiction he wrote on toilet paper in prison... the Marquis de Sade wrote theatre in his insane asylum and his fellow inmates play...

• Sexploration with Monika – What Do You Want? Getting the Kinks Out with Mistress Minax

  What do you really want? If someone gave you the opportunity to really ask for your erotic or experiential desires, what would you ask for? What kind of touch, healing, sensation or stimulation? Of course, even though you paid a small fee for your tic...

• Sexploration with Monika - Masculinism & Multiple Orgasms for Men

  Have you ever wondered how to leave a woman wanting more? Have you ever wondered what it's like to have a penis? Monika has, and gets the lowdown on having penis and how to use it from Erotic Rockstar Destin Gerek. Destin is a Certified Somatic Sexolog...

• Sexploration with Monika – Save the Boobies!!!

  Bouncy, pleasure-producing, and mesmerizing, everyone agrees that boobies are awesome... but you'll be surprised how sensitive breasts are not just sexually, but to our environment! Breasts are getting bigger, arriving earlier and sucking up mysterious...

• Sexploration with Monika - You can have a THREE HOUR orgasm?

  What's "the point" of having sex? Is the reason we have sex to achieve the climax of orgasm or is it to have the whole experience of pleasure and connection that you and your partner share? Sheri, of the Welcomed Consensus, tells us that if you can rel...

• Sexploration with Monika - Live at the Masturbate-a-Thon 2012

  The Masturbate-A-Thon is a charity event, like a walk-a-thon, that raises money and awareness except at the end your feet don't hurt... unless you have a really unique way of self-pleasuring! Every year at the Center for Sex and Culture, men and women ...

• Sexploration with Monika - Are you or is someone you know a sex addict?

  Could you be or is someone you know a sex addict? Is sex an addiction? David Ley, PhD is a a clinical psychologist practicing in New Mexico. He first began treating perpetrators and victims of sexual abuse, but expanded his practice to include the prom...

• Sexploration with Monika – Live at the 8-Course Gourmet Erotic Dinner

  Almost an hour of sex-intellectual on-location interviews from the 8-course gourmet dinner with the best female bondage rigger in the whole world, Midori, sex educator, artist, and dominatrix. We'll also speak with Fleur de Lis SF, San Francisco's Slut...

• Sexploration with Monika – Food & Sex: Live Tease for the 8-Course Gourmet Erotic Dinner

  If awareness, mental focus, or consciousness makes food taste better, what does it do to your sex life? Ken is the Soux Chef at the 8-Course Gourmet Dinner. He's also a martial artist and practices meditation. One of the kinds of meditation he practice...

• Sexploration with Monika – Strip Clubs & Cupcakes for Social Justice

  You can join the 3 sex-positeers on a cupcake-delivering mission to strip clubs for social justice with Laura Lasky of SolaceSF.org & Fleur De Lis SF's Sluttiest Blogger. You'll learn how something as sweet but insubstantial as a cupcake can help e...

• Sexploration with Monika – The Technology of Orgasm and Sex Doctors at the Antique Vibe Museum

  Do you know that doctors used to call the female orgasm "hysterical paroxysm?" Join us at the grand opening of the Antique Vibrator Museum. We'll discuss why learning about the history of vibrators is a women's liberation issue that is getting even mor...

• Sexploration with Monika – Sex Worker's Union, Lesbian trapped in a Man's Body, and the Perils of Public Bathrooms

  With Dr. Carol Queen as our darling docent of the vibe, you can join us at the grand opening of the Antique Vibrator Museum at the Good Vibrations Store on Polk street here in San Francisco. You don't have to have sex in exchange for $$ for that to be ...

• Sexploration with Monika – Theatre of the RiDICKulous: Hot Greeks screwing w/ gender since 1972

  The history of the college movie musical, ancient greece, and the psychedelic drag queen troupe the Cockettes smash together for a grinding rolicking and glittering evening of musical theatre in the Thrillpeddlers production of Hot Greeks at San Franci...

• Sexploration with Monika – Spring Break, Date Rape: Causes and Myths

  Spring Break is a time where alcohol and crossed sexual expectations collide, a tragic recipe for date rape. You will be shocked when you hear how many young men don't even realize that they've committed date rape, and just call it "drunk sex." Author ...

• Sexploration with Monika – Ecstasy is Necessary, brain- and full-body orgasms, and Urban Tantra

  You can join me for conversations about open relationships, very edgy fantasy play, the cutting edge of sex-ed, and brain-gasms at a sex-positive book signing at Good Vibrations, San Francisco's friendliest sex toy store. Barbara Carrellas is celebrati...

• Sexploration with Monika – Purr with Me at the Second Base Party

  You can join Sexploration with Monika at the "Second Base Party," a sexy party where instead of sex, you can go all the way to second base - which, for those of us who missed this in high school, 2nd base is above the waist. The theme is "Purr With Me"...

• Sexploration with Monika – What four letter benefit you receive by raising money and awareness for local AIDS organizations?

  How giving back backfires (in a good way). How you can spend less than a bathroom remodel, give an entire village the tools to build their own clean water infrastructure (and market those skills to surrounding villages), AND help heal the spiritual div...

• Sexploration with Monika – Sex Geek Potluck 2011: 15 sexperts, a sex toy demo, and the ensuing hilarity

  15 sex-intellectuals: porn star/physicist team makes scientific orgasm-measuring tech, tantric healears, dominatrix, lesbian-werewolf socially-concious erotica writer, male-submission activist, sex-worker activist - more sex-educators than at which you...

• Sexploration with Monika – Cum and Glitter, Science of Orgasm, and Sex-Worker Feminism

  You can join me at the live sex show "Cum and Glitter" at a secret location in San Francisco. We'll listen to QueerPorn.tv's Courtney Trouble giggle about how she has an orgasm through her hand! We'll also discuss mirror neurons, hairy girls, and how p...

• Sexploration with Monika – Porn, Glitter, Consent, and Countering Sex-Negativity

  Cum and Glitter star Ava Solanas will tell us about the future of live sex performance, the commingling of theatre, pornography, and performance art. Cum and Glitter is a live sex show by and for sex workers as part of an on-going empowerment-driven...

• Sexploration with Monika – Removing the barriers to sexy: queer tantra and the natural birth control app

  Tantra emphasises the sacred side of sexuality, but many tantra classes focus on the heterosexual couple, privileging feminine and masculine energy. Does human sexual energy really work within only the male/female binary? Evalena Rose teaches gay and a...

• Sexploration with Monika – Open the friendliest V-day heart-shaped box of sex party in San Francisco!

  Don’t you want to open the heart-shaped box of joyful ridiculousness that is San Francisco’s most friendly, vividly colorful (and yet somehow highly approachable) sex party? Founder Barron Scott Levkoff aka Professor Dandy will join us with the ins...

• Sexploration with Monika – Sexuality, Spirituality, Being Queer: Waving Your Freak Flag in the Presence of GOD

  When religion tells you that the way you want to have sex is a sin, how does that affect your relationship with God and spirituality? What was your experience as a teenager, as change and desire surged through your body, and you got messages that sex w...

• Sexploration with Monika – Fight Sex-Negativity w/ SF's Alt Pornmakers and Amsterdam's Academia

  How can we help make sexuality more open and free? How do public platforms and sex-positive community work to normalize sexual freedom? Does porn have a role in creating sexual freedom? Ruchamah Van der Horn has come all the way from the University of ...

• Sexploration with Monika – As a sex-worker, what do you say when asked, "What do you do?"

  When you're at a party, after you introduce yourself, what's the first thing people usually ask you? "What do you do?" When you're a sex-worker and you perform some kind or erotic service from dancing to sex for money, what do you say? Do you lie and t...

• Sexploration with Monika – Do you want life and your relationships to be deep, sexy, and pleasurable forever?

  Do you want to enjoy sex for the rest of your life? So does Nancy, a self-described "pure sexual being," health educator, wellness coach, yoga therapist, wife, mother, grandmother, registered nurse, and creator of the Erotikos Film Festival at the noto...

• Sexploration with Monika – How Feminism Leads to Good Sex

  Dottie Lux dishes about beauty and subverting the dominant culture paradigm, and Ginger of Whore! Magazine tells us why she has a penis glued to her girdle. We talk about gender, celebrating not fitting in, and inclusion. Then oysters & mimosas on ...

• Sexploration with Monika – Sea of Dreams: why we celebrate midnight one day a year and kiss whomever is near?

  You can explore the glittering wunderworld of the Sea of Dreams New Year's Eve party in San Francisco as Sexploration with Monika goes on location. The night glistens with gold mirror-ball hoop dancers, klowns, a rainbow of costumed aerialists, the fan...

• Sexploration with Monika – Kinky Salon's Merry Sexy Whobillation Party

  You can explore the festivest sex party, Kinky Salon's Whobillation. Join us for a real "porn shoot" in the "Clounge," the lounge by the clowns of Klown Klub. Actually "the porn shoot" isn't what you think, but I didn't get the joke for awhile either, ...

• Sexploration with Monika – Sexual Economics: monogamy, scarcity, and creating abundance (in your pants)!

  Have you ever experienced a sense of scarcity in your sex life? Could sexuality be a kind of economy? We'll discuss the economics of sexuality with sex-positive community and sexY-party expert Polly Whittaker of Kinky Salon plus how is scarcity enforce...

• Sexploration with Monika – The Erotic 8-Course Gourmet Dinner

  The intersection of cuisine and sensuality is pleasure, and "Our Gourmet Life" wants to be a literally saucy playground. Their 8-course erotic dinner was created by Chris, Beth, and Kal in private homes around SF to entice you into their world of open ...

• Sexploration with Monika – You can have an Orgasm for 15 minutes!!!

  How can you have an orgasm for 15 MINUTES? Nicole describes her clitoral meditation practice as a 15 minute orgasm. In this segment of Sexploration with Monika, we talk with Nicole Daedone, author of "Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm" a...

• Sexploration with Monika – Female Ejaculation: Grrls can have squirting orgasms too?

  You've heard of the G-Spot, which some scientists have disputed even exists(!), but Tallulah Sulis has found hers and she want to help you find yours. If the G-Spot orgasm, or "Female Ejaculation", isn't a "circus trick" or pee... what is it? How come ...

• Sexploration with Monika – Sex at Dawn: the Evolution of Human Sexuality

  Do you think that monogamy is "natural" for humans or did we evolve to be "slutty?" Christopher Ryan, author of Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality, explains evidence from anthropology, anatomy, & primatology indicating that ou...

• Sexploration with Monika - Orgasmic Birth

  You've probably heard for your whole life that "labor" is the most painful experience ever, but what if childbirth could actually be literally orgasmic? "Orgasmic Birth" filmmaker and Lamaze-certified midwife Debra Pascali-Bonaro will tell us how women...

• Sexploration with Monika – Sex Worker Advocacy and Activism with Lilly Ally and Maxine Holloway

  Do you think there's something wrong with a woman literally owning her own sexuality? Does she have the right to choose on what terms she shares sex, even if that means she asks something in exchange? We've talked about the economics of sex and monogam...